What Does it Mean to be Gay, Lesbian or Bisexual?
Nobody knows for sure what determines sexual orientation. The origins of sexual orientation are complex. People are attracted to each other, be they members of the same sex or opposite sex, for different reasons. It is natural to be attracted to the opposite sex, same sex or both. People do not “choose” to be gay, lesbian or bisexual just like people do not “choose” to be straight.
Some people who are gay, lesbian or bisexual say that they have always felt attracted to members of the same sex. Others say they became aware of these feelings when they were teenagers or young adults. People are not attracted to the same sex because they were raised a certain way by their parents or because they had sexual experiences with members of the same sex when they were young.
Negative attitudes about same sex attraction
It isn’t easy to grow up and live in this world if you are gay, lesbian or bisexual. Many people hold negative attitudes about same sex orientation, also called "homophobia."
If you identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual, you may be the target for discrimination, abuse, and even violence. Because of this, you may have feelings of confusion or fear. You may worry that family and friends will reject you or keep you at a distance. This can make it difficult to come out or be open about your sexuality with your family. It can be particularly difficult if your family’s values or religion does not support same sex relationships.
Support in the community
If you are lesbian, gay or bisexual, there are places where you can go for support and to meet others in the GLB community. For example, you can:
- Join gay, lesbian or bisexual clubs or organizations
- Get help from social service agencies. Ask if they offer support services that are gay, lesbian, and bisexual positive
Building these relationships can be empowering and make you feel less alone. You may also be a source of support to someone else. Accessing services may be more difficult if you live in a rural or remote community. You may want to call a GLB support or info line to find out what services are available in your community.
A good place to start if you want to link up with groups like this is PFLAG . If you're under 20, Kids Help Phone can also help you find support and counselling in your area.
Resources
Lesbian-Gay-Bi-Trans Youth Line: 1-800-268-9688. (Sunday through Friday from 4:00pm to 9:30pm Eastern time).
